We are starting a series called “Inner Beauty” where we answer Life Challenge questions submitted from our Facebook Live viewers. This first one was submitted by a mom asking how to not take stress out on her kids, but this can be applied in other relationships as well!
We’ve all probably had a day where we’ve had a boss or a teacher or somebody take something out on us and we can also probably remember how that made us feel. Now imagine if you are the one under stress.. Have your kids really done anything serious enough to warrant whatever it is that your stress is going to take out on them?
So, what do you do? The best thing you can do is to take some time, even if you have to sit in your car for a few minutes and find a “theme song” for the moment, your “spirit animal” or a picture that represents who you are as a person and who you want to be as a mom. Make sure you get centered with yourself before you walk into a room with your kids and be responsible for the energy that you bring into that room. That is so important. Also understanding that you have very limited time of your kids’ lives with them, so spending that time in nurturing and developing them instead of taking your frustrations out on them is so key. Make sure you get centered with yourself and remember what kind of energy you want to bring to your kids before you go and take it out on them.
For example, let’s say you are centered and you walk into a room and it’s a mess and you think “ugh that’s it, my kids are lazy, they’re not doing anything,” but little do you know, maybe your kids were in cleaning their rooms and they brought out toys to give away to kids.. It could be that different of a scenario, but the energy you bring into that room is what will guide how you react and how much you can help the kids.
So take a minute to center yourself and make sure you can bring good energy to them!
And remember, if it does happen that you take your stress out on them, regroup and move on! Don’t dwell on it because that’s not beneficial for anyone!!
The key is to recenter, however that happens. Ask the kids for a take back. Say, “I’ve thought about what happened and I think I can do better so how about this…” and bring the new energy or new approach!
For more tips and hair tutorials, follow us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and Pinterest